Secrets of Building Communities: It’s all about Relationships
«Relational Judaism Handbook: How to Create a Relational Engagement Campaign to Build and Deepen Relationships in Your Community», by Dr Ron Wolfson
This powerful book has been around for a while now, but Rabbi Dr. Ron Wolfson’s message is a simple one: a synagogue is not about the building, the programmes or the budget. A synagogue is a place to build a community. A community of volunteers who are on fire for making the world a better place. A community of volunteers determined to make each individual feel at home. A community of people who show up, help out, bring food, wash the linen and take the recycling away, who donate when they can, who stack away the books and bring out the chairs and tables so we can eat together. The world outside may be littered with narcissists, but our community can choose instead to build relationships, reaching out to the people sitting near you at an event if you don’t know them. This way, no-one should ever feel alone.
Migwan has a wonderful range of ages, outlooks, expectations and identities. We are all different, yet we are all the same: live in the Diaspora, in a country where Jewish people are a minority. We are Liberal Jews striving to pass on culture and traditions to our children and also to each other. Just think of all the ways you can help build the community: by contributing your time and, sometimes, financial support to cover the rent, security staff, teachers, and the rabbinate. But think also of inviting someone over for Shabbat, for a walk in the country, a visit to a theatre or concert together. I find that sharing a task, a working bee, tidying the garden, sitting on a committee or studying together is a fantastic way to get to know people a little more.
The Board has posted a volunteer sheet on the notice board for the services from August to December. Put your name down for a Shabbat or two: come early or stay late – you will enjoy the casual chatting that goes on. Sponsor a Kiddush for a special occasion. Come to a cultural event and introduce yourself to the people there. Help make everyone feel at home.
Relationship building starts with a smile of welcome and could last a lifetime! We aren’t going to gather at the well with our sheep or camels and exchange the news of family and the world. But we're building our community—making new acquaintances and forming new friendships. Make Migwan your well, your second home.
Hava Fleming
Board member for religion
